What Not to Say to Someone With OCD
If a friend or family member has obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you probably want to do whatever you can to help them. But if you’ve never dealt with this disorder yourself, you might have a hard time figuring out what to say. Your goal should be to empathize with them and offer support, so with that in mind, you’ll want to avoid using these phrases:
- “Relax” – OCD causes someone to have recurring, unwanted thoughts and urges (obsessions) and/or repeatedly perform certain actions (compulsions). Even if your loved one’s concerns seem unfounded or don’t make sense to you, it’s important that you remember they can’t help it, and that you don’t tell them to calm down or simply stop worrying. Doing so could leave them feeling invalidated and wondering whether you actually understand what they’re going through.
- “I’m so OCD” – Many people believe that OCD simply causes one to be tidy or particular about how things are organized, but it’s much more than that. If you’ve actually been diagnosed with OCD, it could be incredibly helpful for you to share your experiences with your loved one. But if you’ve never received a formal diagnosis, avoid labeling relatively normal behaviors as “OCD,” since doing so can minimize the disorder.
- “I thought you were over that” – Unfortunately, there’s currently no cure for OCD, although there are many treatment options available that can help manage the condition. Your loved one’s symptoms may appear to have improved, but be sure to remember that OCD is a chronic disorder that they may need to work at for the rest of their life.
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About the Author
Amanda Landry, LMHC, CAP, NCCFounder & CEO, Caring Therapists - Florida Group Practice
Amanda Landry is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), Certified Addictions Professional (CAP), and National Certified Counselor (NCC), with over 18 years of experience helping teens, young adults, couples, and families navigate anxiety, depression, trauma, substance use, and relational challenges. Her holistic approach blends evidence‑based therapies-such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy-with yoga, meditation, and vegetarian wellness practices.
As the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Caring Therapists, Amanda leads a thriving group practice with multiple locations across South Florida, including Fort Lauderdale, Wellington, Davie, Pembroke Pines, Coral Springs, Sunrise, Hollywood, and Palm Beach Gardens. Her leadership emphasizes clinical quality, community connection, and accessibility, with an emphasis on serving local South Florida communities.
Amanda is also a published author of "Guided Journal for Women with Anxiety" (2022) and has created My Private Practice Collective, an online community and resource hub for therapists establishing or expanding their practices. As a Qualified Supervisor, she mentors and supervises new clinicians seeking licensure and growth in their therapeutic careers.